Reology is a world where you stop blaming others and worrying about others blaming you. This encourages people to be more open and revealing.Reology is a way to improve who we are, how we think, speak, and act.
The Philosophy of “Re-righting” Our Thoughts
My intention here is not to trace the history of how this school of thought originated and developed, though it is of great interest to sociologists, anthropologists, psychologists, and ALL lay people making efforts at personal development.
What I will do, instead, is to lay out a few of the basic principles to help the reader understand – and possibly learn enough to want to learn more, and maybe even practice the philosophy.
What we learn from Reology
Reology teaches us that we have the ability to choose how we react to certain stimuli in the environment that elicit an emotional reaction. This form of emotional regulation gives us the power to react the way we want – in a responsible manner that will not cause potentially negative consequences.
It comes from a place that says, “I make me feel and therefore I can choose what feeling to feel.”
For example, we can be responsible and make statements like, “When you say those things you make me feel ______ (fill in the blank)”.
However, Reology takes it to a whole new level and adds, “I make me feel _____(fill in the blank)”.
Reology asks us to be responsible for all the negative feelings we have because we chose them!
Reology focuses on growth rather than change.
Reology tells us that when we speak with others, we must make it very clear right at the beginning that we are talking about our perspective, and not ‘What is out there’. Most disagreements happen when we argue on this issue.
If you are saying, ‘This is how this thing makes me feel’, you are not saying, ‘This is how this thing IS.’
I would argue with you on the second point, because I have my own view on WHAT IS, whereas there is nothing to argue in the first statement, because what you feel is known to you more than it is to anybody else.
In fact, the next position is: “I acknowledge how you feel about this; I accept you have a right to feel the way you do, and I honor that fact.”
Now, this is of such fundamental importance, but our language is peppered with sentences and words that constantly deny this reality. Reology takes the help of PERCEPT LANGUAGE, which corrects our way of speaking, making sure we constantly apprise other people of the above statement. I will come to Percept Language presently.
Basic premise of Reology
The basic premise is that given the importance of relationships in our lives, we invest a lot of time and effort on them. We ALL want fantastic relationships and that means we are loved and liked by people we interact with. The first question to ask ourselves is: “How can I expect others to love me if I don’t love myself in the first place?”
Most of us will react with, “Don’t be daft! I do love myself!”
Let us take a step backward first. A majority of human beings believe that things happen to them; they are constantly in the midst of some unpleasant situation which they believe they didn’t ask for or create.
Am I a Victim or am I in Control?
|Now, let us ask ourselves one thing: “What are my choices?”There are basically two: I accept the situation as unavoidable, there being nothing I can do about it; or, I take charge of things and put in efforts to change things around. Which would you rather do?This is a fundamental starting point; I am not arguing in favor of or against destiny, fate, and things like that.If you are okay to let things be as they are, put in no struggle, refuse to fight for your own improvement – then it doesn’t matter what you think is the reason for the situation you are in. Your actions prove what you really think: you are a victim.On the contrary, when you desire to take charge, want to be in control – then the question becomes important.|
What is BELIEF?
So it boils down to what I want to believe (or need to believe).
The next question is: What does it matter what I believe, if what I believe is wrong? For example, people believed the Earth is flat, but that did not change the Earth’s shape!
So, let us say I am someone who wants to be in charge and control my own destiny; in that case, does it make more sense for me to BELIEVE that I CAN influence my destiny? Will I feel more empowered if I believed that to be true?
Now here is the next fundamental thing: BELIEF is not about FACTS which you can verify.
The flat Earth hypothesis did not stand the test of time, because scientific evidence to the contrary was not late in coming.
A BELIEF (as defined strictly) is a thought – or a habitual way of thinking – about something which you cannot verify by your various senses – but you WANT it to be true. It is an expression of your desire, the way you want things to be. It’s about a future which you HOPE will be in a certain way.
You want your child to be a beautiful human being: in that case, which is the fact – that at some point in the future, your child is a bad person – is that the fact? Or that your child IS the beautiful person that you wanted him to be – is THAT the fact?
BELIEF is thinking about a future event or situation which YOU WANT – with the idea that there is NO DOUBT that it will be so. It is like knowing it just the way you know something which has happened in the present time.
When you consider Belief to be such a thing – wouldn’t you like it to be the best you ever wanted?
I BELIEVE I am a good person; I believe I am happy and joyous; I believe I am wealthy and prosperous; I believe I am healthy and full of energy.
Isn’t this, then a matter of how we think, rather than what we think is OUT THERE?
The LAW OF ATTRACTION
The BIGGEST FUNDAMENTAL change in thinking in modern times is the realization that our lives and our experiences are EXACTLY as we want them to be. We MIGHT say we want something, but our thoughts, attitudes, speech, and our actions may not be reflecting that – which is the reason we are not experiencing it in our lives.
This, in a nutshell, is the LAW OF ATTRACTION. And we attract people, things, events, and circumstances by constantly thinking about them.
Here, then, is the fundamental need for Re-righting our thinking – because that is the only way we can construct a future according to our thoughts and desires.
Jake & Hannah Eagle
The foremost practitioners of this method of thinking, talking, and acting are Jake and Hannah Eagle, hence a lot of what is said here is based on their words, culled from their various talks, and a review of their book: “Re-right your life: An Introduction to Reology”.
Jake Eagle’s book on Reology presents its rules and guidelines in a conversation between Jake and his brother Tom. Jake’s brother Tom had an inoperable brain tumor, hence he and Jake had every reason to believe they were victims of fate.
Reology is a new way of thinking and puts the control of having a happy, fulfilling life right in your lap. The book is the first step in taking your life in a completely new direction. It asks you to revisit what you think you know and rethink it. It asks you to change how you speak and respeak it.
Percept language is a tool for navigating with one another; by using percept language, we can avoid the pitfalls that come from interfering, judging, assuming, and comparing ourselves with others. This language sounds strange, new, perhaps awkward at first, but can became a much better way of expressing ourselves.
How is it useful?
By using this special form of the English language, the effort is to improve our awareness of ourselves, heighten our sensitivity to our sensations, as well as take ownership of our feelings, thoughts, actions, and perceptions.
This is also a method of letting other people know that you are willing to let them have their own feelings, thoughts, and perceptions.
“Feel Clearer in the Interior”
Through this, the practitioners of this language feel ‘clearer’ about their ‘interior’ and feel more connected with Spirit. They feel that they are more often non-judgmental, can more easily be direct and remain truer to their experience, and can be more open and revealing to others about themselves.
The users of this language then feel they are ‘more themselves’, true to themselves in the here and now, and to others. They feel universally rewarded in this manner by this new way of expressing.
This is a language that is used as the medium of expression in interior (‘in the mind’) dialogue, as well as when in groups, called ‘Circle’. In Circles, this language helps them to ‘stay present to ourselves’, witness to one another, avoiding interpreting others, and honoring that each has a different ‘place’ or ‘position’ in the Circle.
For example, the practitioners sit in a Circle, and may all be looking at a candle, but each has quite different perceptions of the candle and each perception is ‘equally valued’ and can neither be duplicated nor completely understood by another.
You can only experience it to know the benefits
Percept language is an experiential language (meaning that its advantages and benefits can only be understood through experience, and may not be amenable to adequate description). It is used to learn more about oneself, and through this awareness, to be able to act with more of one’s own power under one’s conscious authority.
Comparison of everyday language, called ‘Concept Language’ and ‘Percept Language’:
|Concept Language||Percept Language|
|is everyday language;||is the language of behavior, of change;|
|the language of “Outside of me”;||The language of “Inside of me”;|
|it is English as I learned it; it is familiar; expectable, conventional; it is my common mode of speech;|
|it is often judgmental;||is non-judgmental;|
|circuitous, sometimes devious;||direct;|
|obscuring and screening||revealing and disclosing|
|circumspect and oblique;||the language of perception;|
|the mode of “self- speaking”;|
|the language of owning my behavior;|
To move from Concept Language to Percept Language, words like it, that, what, this,are droppedand substitute by I, or sometimes, me.
|Concept Language||Percept Language|
|“This is really delightful.”||“I delight me with this.”|
|“I don’t know what to say”||“I don’t know how to say me.”|
|“It doesn’t seem to matter.”||“I don’t seem to matter.”|
Sorting out our feelings, our thoughts and beliefs and labeling them accurately is an important part of percept language; this is one way in which the speaker can ‘differentiate’ herself and make her clearer to herself.
|Concept Language||Percept Language|
|“I feel this is the right road.”||“I think this is the right road.”|
|“I think I’m angry.”||“I anger me.”|
|“I feel that I’m correct”||“I think I’m correct”|
|“I feel it’s going to rain.”||“I think it’s going to rain.”|
In Concept language one can speak of oneself as the passive object of some various “things that happen to me.” In Precept Language, the perpetrator (Subject) is the self, and actions are done on oneself.
|Concept Language||Percept Language|
|“I caught a fever.”||“I fevered me.”|
|“I don’t know why I get these headaches.”||“I don’t know why I ache my head.”|
|“I’m bored”||“I bore me.”|
|“You make me angry”||“I anger me.”|
In Percept, one is in control – not a victim of circumstances
In concept language we speak as though events, feelings, dreams, and thoughts all were visited upon me, while in percept language we acknowledge to the world that we visit all these states upon ourselves.
We take responsibility for our own actions and the results thereof; One way to make sure I am being responsible is to use the form—I have me.
Projections, interpretations, and assumptions regarding others are my mirror of me.
If we were better at asking questions and answering them, then things would be much better; by ‘better’ is meant ‘more precise’ – and we would be clearer about ourselves and straighter in our relationships.
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